Throw Back Thursday
- Just In Faith
- Sep 29, 2021
- 3 min read
Have you ever found yourself deep and stuck in thoughts of your passed experiences? How long did you take to get over it? How frequent does it click your mind? Have you forgotten about it? It is my pleasure to walk you down the ‘throw back and move on’ lane. Let’s first admit that it is not easy. But at least it is not impossible.
Many are times when we regret having been found in certain places, situations, relationships, because of the pain, hardship and challenges we experienced there. Unconsciously, we spend better part of our day thinking over and over again, cursing those involved and to the further extent, cursing ourselves for the same. We cannot help. That’s the reality of our yesterday. However, something has to be done about it.
Position your yesterday where it belongs. Live your today fully, as you hope for a better tomorrow. Throw back your past experiences,
Divine power to forgive: To forgive is the silent commandment. Sometimes it is viewed as a choice, but then it must be a compulsory choice. For the sake of your own happiness, peace and your own posterity, forgiveness has to be your everyday agenda. It is a supernatural deliberate action, that is why it calls for divine intervention. In your capacity as a human being, it proves difficult. Keep in mind that forgiveness has absolutely nothing to do with forgetting. In fact, forgiveness is divine; forgetting in a human error (it’s just but a fallacy). You cannot forget how someone made you feel. And even if you do, things will happen that will frequently remind you of the same. With this, forgiveness comes in to imply that, a reminder of the experience you underwent, shall not trigger painful emotions of heartbreak, hardship, low self-esteem, etc in you. You shall remember it in happiness and celebration that you went through it, came out of it, and
Well-structured Goals: Where are you moving on to? What’s that different experience that you need? Without goals, you may overcome the bump, just to enter into a ditch. Have focus. Imagine and draw your tomorrow today, and work towards it. Especially in your social life, imagine the kind of relationship you admire. How do you want to be treated tomorrow and what kind of a person can do that? With that you shall easily sieve amongst those around you and avoid unwanted companies.
Correct understanding of the reality of life: gather factual knowledge about life and do not be ignorant. Learn with me these four major realities of life – (4 C’s)
Firstly, life is a Challenge. This means that no one knows the correct way through it. It is a challenge to your abilities and potential. Whatever you see now, was discovered by someone from a certain problem they faced. Therefore, take your situations as challenges and try to get something out of it. Do not mourn forever.
Secondly, life is about Choices: You only live your choices. You have a choice to throw back your past pains or to glue yourself in them and remain there forever. Decision making is a life skill that its absence is absence of life. You stop living when you stop making decisions.
Thirdly, life is a Consequence: say no more than this. Life does not end in choices. It continues in consequences. Make reasonable, relevant, and realistic choices to live in their consequences. Throw back the previous wrong choices you made that brought you to this painful consequence.
Lastly, life is a Calling: Understand that you are not an accident regardless of what you underwent. You came out of it because God is not yet done with you in whatever sector, be it relationship-wise, spiritual, financial and even emotional. God has good plans for you and he bears a bright future for you. He created you with a purpose and you must fulfill.
Parting shot:
“To get over it is to realize it was just a bump, and not a destiny. It may slow you down but not stop you. Jump and journey on.” From the Swahili nation we get an adage that says, “Yaliyopita si ndwele. Tugange yajao.” In direct translation to English we can say, “History is not an illness, lets treat the future.” The implication we get from this is that the passed should not bother us. We should not spend our resources, including the mental resources trying to correct the past, instead we should focus on making tomorrow better.
“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”- Carl Bard
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