TRUST_the process | love relationship advice
- Just In Faith
- Sep 29, 2021
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 19, 2023
TRUST_the process | love relationship advice
“Love is a commandment; Trust is a choice. Love is a debt you ought to pay; Trust is interest you only pay to those who have invested.” Human beings spend their lifetime looking for Health, wealth and trust. Amongst the three, the greatest of them all is TRUST. Apart from the oceanic waves, the beautiful waterfall sceneries and the cool sea breezes, the sweetest feelings are ignited by the knowledge that you have someone to trust and that someone can trust you. Trust is defined as confidence in or reliance on someone. It is total dependence on some person.
Dimension of Trust
Credit: Commonly, credit is letting someone have what belongs to you with confidence in future payment. In a relationship setup, I choose to lend you my emotions of happiness, joy, sadness and all others, with total confidence that you will pay back in the same manner, in equal or even higher measure. This is unlike love that is a law/commandment and a debt. As recorded in the good book (bible), you should owe nothing to no one except to love. Here you do not expect love in return. A relationship involves a lot of trade. I trade my sorrows for nowhither joy, that is, I choose to give up my troubles, and sadness so as I can afford a smile for you. This is with confidence that you also will someday sacrifice your moods, to wear into my moods. I have all the personal reasons to celebrate. However, because you are sad, I choose to lend you my joy by standing by your side to mourn with you. It goes around, it must come around someday. I trust you.
Accumulative: “Haba haba hujaza kibaba.” True. However, the basket of trust never fills. Every day is a brand-new opportunity to accumulate trust. It can never reach a day when you will say you have invested enough to be trusted so you don’t need to do anything about it. Trust money; you never get enough of it. It is SWEET TO SPEND BUT SWEAT TO ACQUIRE.
Interest: Trust is what you get from what you have given. How much can your actions claim from those you have acted upon? A bank calculates interest as a function of investment. That means, even if you have been earning interest for the past century when you stop or rather withdraw your investment from the bank, you immediately stop earning interest. The bank here can be your partner, investment is your genuine acts of love, and interest is the trust. You have been earning the trust of your partner for years of relationship because of your acts of love. However, the moment you stop this action, trust is lost there and then regardless of how long it has lasted. Remember trust is neither a Gift nor a Grant. Don’t play cards with your emotions. Be careful with matters of the heart. Set very low-interest rates, so that only a few and determined ones can choose to invest.
Parting shot: Desperate trust | Love relationship advice
Take home. Desperate trust is and should only be found in the bible. Brethren, be desperate for Jesus Christ. Trust fully in him because he already earned it greatly and is still earning it as he loves us unconditionally. HOWEVER. NEVER shall you EVER apply this desperate trust in a situation to earn a partner’s love. It can be tempting to trust someone with your emotions just because you are from a deadly experience of heartbreak. Or because you feel it's taking longer to meet your trustee. You are desperate for human love, intimacy, for a sense of belonging, so you choose to blindly trust someone to save the situation. This should best be referred to us as RISK and not trust. Life is a NEVER A RISK as they say; Life and LOVE our FAITH.
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